can someone help me with the maths

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FormerMember

23 Jan 2011

well people ( in general family, friends , medical professionals ) are now talking to me like i already have 1 foot in the grave , not a plesant time and doesn't fill me with confidence . everybody seems to have that low , depressed tone to their voice and are suddenly talking to me like i'm 3 . i have a little problem thinking at the momment , probably due to lack of sleep ..or just being thick !

anyway can someone help me with the maths ...when i saw the surgen in the week he reccomends that i have complete removal of bladder , bowel and vagina ...by doing this it will give me a 1 in 5 chance of being cancer free ..but that also gives me an 80% chance the cancer will come back ..or i could have chemo ..i've had chemo twice before , both times it hasn't worked ..but of coarse theres different types to try ..if i have chemo i will have 6 - 12 months at the most ..probably . people as mentioned above , are now back tracking and saying i should maybe go the chemo route ...i don't think the sums add up ....had a visit from a palitive nurse today ..does that already mean i'm circling the drain ( a penny phrase) ?

i feel quite well ... ..just had a phone call from the g.p saying how sorry she was , deep depressed tone etc ...and asking me if i thought surgery was really worth it if the odds are so small ..what do you guys think ...?

FormerMember over 13 years ago

Sammie, my thought has always been that if there is a chance, take it, however small. I know it will be a major operation for you, but if there is a chance that it will work...................

I don't know what I would do in your position, but I wish you well in whatever you decide to do.

Best wishes, Christine xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

first and foremost and most importantly Sam, what do YOU think?

The surgery sounds like a biggie with no easy recuperation......but you say you feel well so if YOU think YOU can handle it.....why not.

It's YOUR life Sam, you do whats best for YOU and your kids. I wouldn't tell you what to do, even if you begged me, but I will support whatever choices you make and listen to you whenever you need.

I am not much of a thinker (no comments necessary), I am impulsive and was even when faced with watch & wait, biopsy or craniotomy.....I was given a week but had made my mind up in less than the 40mins car ride home from the hospital. It worked for me, but others probably like to digest all the information and make a choice after a lot of soul searching.

Good luck Sam in whatever YOU decide, we are right behind you mate.

Love & Strength

Debs xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Sam,

Well If you feel your up for the op that choice, is going to have to be yours. Its alot to think about

especially with the Kids.

As they say. "We all die if we do and we all die if we dont." . All the best in whatever you choose. We are all sending our strength and Love.

Take care and be safe.Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Do what you feel is right Sam, my med team didn't expect me to get through 2008 but I did. Like Debs says we are all right behind you all the way girl and where there is life, there is hope and it is your life. Love and hugs...Carol xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

As Debs has said, it's your life and only you can make the decision. If you're asking me what I would do, I guess I would go the surgery route. It is major, major surgery, but you are a strong young woman. Whatever you decide Sam, I'll support you every step of the way.

Big huge ((((((hugs)))))))

Angela xxxx
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