positivelady's blog

,Borderline Changes

2011-04-13T15:55:15Z

Hi all, not sure if Im putting this in the right place, but I have a question for all you ladies, thought it a bit too personal for chat.

I recently, had a routine smear test which they said they were 'unable' to report upon and asked me to have another one done. I have had another one done and this is now showing 'Borderline changes in the cervix cells' Iv now got to have another one and if this still shows changes I have to have a Colposcopy? (sp).

My question i 1. Anyone had it done and does it hurt?? (me's a wimp) and also do I need to be worrying here? I know they have said it doesnt necessarily mean cancer cells, but when I have a letter from the Cancer screening co-ordinator I feel a bit anxious?? My GP is already pushing me for a hysterectomy (due to other problems) Have an appointment at the Queen Elizabeth in Bham in May, Im worried that because of these abnormal results they may say I definately have to have a hysterectomy?

I know Im the biggest wimp in the world, and a worryer, but I have visions of me being reunited with my Ian sooner than expected?? Lol, only kidding....

Any advise would be welcome, thanks my friends, Julie xxx

Insurance question

2009-10-06T19:27:27Z

Hi folks, just wondered if anyone can give me some advise.

We have terminal illness cover on our mortgage. Although my partner has incureable cancer which he is having palliative chemo and radio for to alleviate symptoms no one has yet mentioned the 'T' word. We have been told he is not going to recover from this and any treatment is palliative only.

We have decided to try and claim on the Life Policy, even though we dont have all the mortgage covered we have about half. My question is if the insurance company dont pay out can they then withdraw the Policy altogether and take away our cover? They know my partner had cancer when we first took out the policy and we had to pay a very high premium for a period of 5 years, this has now dropped back to normal (the irony being that his cancer has now returned) im just worried that if we do make a claim they might say they wont pay out and withdraw the policy altogether.

Any advise would be welcome, thanks, Julie

HELP!!

2009-09-20T21:11:00Z

Please can anyone tell me how to access the private messages i have sent to people? On the old site you could look them up cant wotk out how to do it on here?

Many thanks, Julie x

New site....HELP!!

2009-09-18T21:50:20Z

Is it just me or is anyone else confuddled with this? Tried to reply to someone-nothing happened-tried to delete some private messages-nothing happened-cant find out whats recent and whats not-cant find my friends-and so on and so on.

Oh well, suppose will get used to it, hello to everyone old and new, Julie x

Good news - long overdue!

2009-09-14T21:03:00Z

Hi all, today we went for the results of my partners halfway ct scan, and the news was good! Shrinkage in all areas-the bowel tumor markedly so, so the plan is to give 2 more cycles of oxi and 5fu, then a break followed by another scan then-who knows? So why then is he in so much pain? Over the last 3 days he has been experiencing considerable pain in his bottom which even the morphine is not shifting-if the tumor has shrunk why this pain? Tols the oncologist and she didnt seem overly concerned. Is it true that when a tumor shrinks it can cause pain? Any advice welcome, Take care, Julie x

CANCER CANNOT........

2009-09-05T22:15:54Z

CANCER IS SO LIMITED..... IT CANNOT cripple love.. IT CANNOT shatter hope... IT CANNOT corrode faith... IT CANNOT eat away peace IT CANNOT destroy confidence... IT CANNOT kill friendship... IT CANNOT shut out memories... IT CANNOT silence courage... IT CANNOT reduce eternal life... IT CANNOT quench the spirit... Author unknown I read this on an American cancer site i go on...just thought i'd share it with you all.

Jokes

2009-08-26T22:00:47Z

Emm.......I thought the jokes were supposed to be in a different place? Iv just read a heartbreaking post from a member who has lost their wife, and on the same page no less than 7 (?) jokes! Not in the best of taste really. I am not a prude i just dont think these jokes should be on the homepage with all the others.

advance bowel cancer-support groups?

2009-07-16T19:34:32Z

Hi friends, was wondering if anyone knew of any support groups for advanced bowel cancer? I am in Warwickshire. I feel this would really help my partner as he always seems brighter when he goes for his chemo sessions and i sussed out the reason why!-its because he chats to other people who have the same cancer and i am certain he would benefit from a support group. We asked our macmillan nurse if our local hospice would be of any help, but she said she didnt feel my partner would benefit from anything at the hospice and may have the opposite effect ie make him depressed!! Iv tried to get him to come onto this site but no luck yet, Many thanks, Julie

Something to think about..

2009-07-13T19:52:54Z

A friend of mine is a reflexologist and she is also a Jehovas Witness. Although i am not a Jehovas Witness myself we very often have some lengthy discussions on the subject. Her belief is that one day the world will end and all the good people will live in paradise where there is no more sickness or suffering and we will meet up again with loved ones who have passed away. Now i know what you,re thinking-YEAH RIGHT!! Which is usually what i say to her. In my line of work i come across some right idiots and i think to myself ,how come nothing ever happens to them?, Dont get me wrong i wouldnt wish cancer on my worst enemy but it does make you feel very bitter. Cancer always seems to target the people who are least deserving of it. I asked my friend-if there is a God why does he let people go through all this suffering and pain? No-one has prayed more than me over the past few months but i never seem to get any answers? Her reply is that God only gives us what we are capable of coping with. Although i am not particularly religous myself i would like to think that there is a paradise where we will all live again free from pain and suffering, would be interested to hear other peoples comments on the subject? Take care, Julie

confused!!??

2009-06-23T16:35:59Z

Hi all. It is my understanding that next month NICE are expected to approve the use of cetuximab (think iv got that right) for advanced bowel cancer and also for some other types of cancer. However i have been reading some posts and it appears that some patients are already having this? Please can anyone tell me why this is? Many thanks

panic over dla!

2009-05-28T17:59:45Z

hi all. my partner was dx 2 weeks ago with advanced bowel cancer with secondary liver, we have been told it is inoperable but treatable and we are awaiting an appointment to see oncologist with regard to palliative chemo and radio. we have applied for disability allowance and our mac nurse has told us to apply under the special rules ie not expected to live more than 6 months!! this has really upset me as no one has mentioned the t word and even our consultant has said he didnt want to go down that road! mac nurse has said not to panic it is just pamphlet speak and if he didnt have any treatment then his cancer would progress and yes he probably wouldnt live longer than 6 months-which i can see her point. has anyone else had this said to them, apparently it is for our own benefit and an incureable illness is classed as a terminal one? just a bit upsetting to hear someone say that, any advise or comments would be welcome, many thanks.

yet another worry!

2009-05-17T17:50:52Z

hi all. my partner was first dx with bowel cancer 5 years ago, he had op and was considered cured. unfortunately it has now reoccurred with secondaries in the liver, unoperable but treatable. we have just looked at our paysafe insurance policy to cover mortgage payments and it says they will not pay out if this illness is related to an illness we knew about at the time of taking out the policy. well we did know about and declared it and at the time of taking out the policy he was all clear. however we are now concerned that they wont pay out, any advice welcome please. also can anyone tell me if a cancer has been dx inoperable but treatable is that the same as terminal? or is terminal used when all treatment has been given and there is nothing else to be done. our insurance life policy will pay out on a terminal illness dx but i dont want to go down that road at the moment as i know it will involve prognosis and all that stuff which i dont think i can handle at the moment. thanks

advice please

2009-05-16T20:41:18Z

hi all. my partner has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer and secondaries in the liver, both inoperable but treatable we are waiting to see oncologist and tuesday he is having biopsy to see wether radio can also be given. i have read a lot of blogs on here about second opinions but have been told this can delay the start of treatment so we are not goin down that road at the moment. does anyone know if this can be done further down the line? ie if he responds well to treatment? i am adamant i am not giving up on this. i am so angry at the moment my partner was dx with bowel cancer 5 years ago and had a colectomy, he only had 3 follow ups in 5 years. he has been goin to gp since xmas and so far they diagnosed him with prostatitis, one dr back in february even said it was the cold weather giving him pain in scar tissue! i feel that 6 months of time has been wasted we even had to wait 4 weeks for hospital appointment. we keep being told to go to gp early with any symptoms but whats the bloody use if all they do is guess? my partner went to gp in january with pain in back passage, weight loss and bowel cancer 5 years ago-well hello!! alarm bells!! sorry to rant im having a bad day today x

worst day of my life

2009-05-14T20:39:34Z

we have just been given some devastating news. my partner and i went yesterday to see consultant to get results from mri scan and ct scan (read my profile for background) we were sat down and very bluntly told he has a recurrence of bowel cancer, it is advanced and secondaries in the liver. we have been told it is not operable as the cancer is in both lobes of his liver. they are going to do a biopsy on the bowel next week to see what type of cancer and if it is in a suitable position for radiotherapy and they are also goin to give chemotherapy to slow it down. i gather then its treatable but not terminal at the moment? we are both finding it very hard to cope with this and both just keep crying, iv cried rivers, i didnt know there were that many tears inside of me! i feel that theyre just giving up with him! feelin a mixture of emotions at the moment, i even feel angry with the consultant for giving us this news-stupid i know. i have read blogs on here where people have had similar diagnosis and then gone on to have surgery? we are trying to remain positive but struggling big time! please, please, please can anyone offer us any hope? sorry to go on x

sickos!!

2009-05-14T17:09:01Z

regarding the spam, i really cant believe the sickos out there using this site! oh well they say what comes around goes around they may have to use this site for real one day!