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latest on mother-in-law

2009-01-15T17:41:44Z

Today My mother-in-law had her 2nd session of chemo this time she only had one type where as last week it was two. She now has two weeks off and then starts the cycle again 2 types and then week later 1 type then 2 weeks off. She hasn't been feeling too good this week, very sick her doctor has prescribed a different anti-sickness tablet which she pops under her lip. My sister-in-law took her today and found out she can get a couple of free sessions reflexology or massage, she has also got her blue badge now. The nurse said that she might feel abit better this week as she has only had one dose of chemo so fingers crossed. My father-in-law is still walking on eggshells around her and won't even let her wash up or make coffee, she said that she will have to talk to him as it is driving her mad. Her Macmillion nurse is coming tomorrow so hopefully she will get more advice, weight lose still an issue lost another 7lbs this week so she has seen a dieticion.

1st chemo today

2009-01-08T17:03:33Z

My Mother-in-law started her Chemo today, She had to go yesterday and have blood tests and a injection which took about 5 hrs in all. She has had 2 types today not sure which but it took about 1 1/2 hrs, next week she has the blood test and then just 1 chemo which should take about 1/2 hr. She said she feels fine just very tired from the last couple of days. The doctor had a good talk with her about the treatment and explained that she was lucky that she was being offered chemo as it is very expensive, and not all people are lucky as it is to advanced - I think this done her good as she feels that they haven't given up hope on her. I have told her to have a nice rest now and not go shopping like she has been. Somehow I think the last thing on her mind will be shopping. She also feels reasurred as they have given her a card so if she feels ill she can go to A&E and not have to wait to long, they also have given her a helpline number which they can ring if they have any questions. In the beginning they were talking about giving her 4 rounds of chemo but it might go to 6 now.

back home

2009-01-01T18:32:44Z

Just a quick update, My Mil came home on Tuesday, they only managed to drain the fluid from the biggest pocket they could, as she now has multiple pockets with fluid. Part of her lung is still deflated so she is a little short of breath. I am still a bit upset rearding my earlier blog, My Hubby seems to be taking it very hard and has been shouting at me and the children I told him he needs to sort himself out as it's not my or the childrens fault it's happened. I am trying to be supportive but I just keep getting it thrown back in my face, his mum has now said that it is out of my hands and she will just have to put up with it. No thanks for phoning work and speaking to the cons about her drain or for him phoning the Oncoligist to hurry up the chemo. I'm there when they want something like when I was at work on Tuesday night I got a phone call from my Hubby asking me to go up to the ward and get her prescription and towel she had left as they didn't want to wait. I'm now just keeping my head down and not asking him about his mum, I will let him talk if he wants to. I'm just fed up that she expects to go into hospital and be seen straight away - you don't even get that if your private.

chest drain

2008-12-28T17:44:09Z

My Mother-in-law ended back in hospital yesterday, she didn't feel well and felt the fluid was building up again. She had a chest xray when she arrived but unfortunally as it's the week-end no doc available to do the drain. My father-in-law was very angry about this but I tried explaining that the hospital's prioty were critical patients and that she would be done as soon as there was a doctor free. They have said now the chest drain will be done on Monday so my mother-in-law was allowed home on day release but to go back the same evening. I thought this was a good idea as my father-in-law and hubby said she should discharge herself which I thought was pointless as she would only have to go through the whole process again, chest xray etc... My Father-in-law is now saying it better be done tomorrow, I know he is angry that this has happened to her but what can he do if it isn't done tomorrow. I think this puts more pressure on my mother-in-law as she worries that he will upset the docs and they have been so good to her. Fingers crossed that she has it done and she can come home as her chemo appt is for the 5th jan

Thought I'd start my blog

2008-12-24T10:20:23Z

I have been reading other people's entries and realised that maybe I should start my own. It's not about me but my Mother-in-law - just diagnoised. The appt on Monday 22nd didn't really go well , found out that her only hope is Chemo. I think deep down I knew this as I work in a hospital and the cons were I work has been really helpful, arranging CT, Bone scans and inserting chest drains. My Hubby is holding up well, he broke down yesterday when he told me that she was upset as she wouldn't see our children grow up and that they wouldn't remember her (5 yrs and 3 yrs) I suggested he brought a video camera, and last night he came home with one so spent all evening playing about with it, at least it kept his mind of it. I haven't been sleeping well, and then I feel gulity because how must she be feeling, being told that you are going to die. I still cannot get my head round it as she looks so well, just her breathing a little breathless. She had to have an Enema yesterday as all the drugs she has been taking have blocked her up and once it started working she couldn't stop (her words not mine) did make me laugh I'm trying not to be sad and be strong for her as we need to keep her positive and she always thinks if I'm upset it's because I might know something from work .