My Mum has cancer

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My Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in September 2010, she finished her treatment for that and started having stomach pains and nausea.  Finally after months of to and fro at the g.p. she has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (apparently unrelated) and they have told us it has spread to her peritoneum.  She is currently in hospital after surgery to re-plum her bowels as the tumours on her peritoneum were causing bowel obstructions.

 

They have told us that there is nothing more they can do surgically and she is being referred to a cancer specialist for possible chemo.  We have no idea what the prognosis is at this point but things aren’t looking good.

 

I’m just so upset and scared.  I feel like I’ve lost my Mum already.  She is a shadow of her former self and has lost all her fight and spirit.

 

At the time of her breast cancer diagnosis my daughter was just 8 weeks old – she is now 8 months and I fear that we are both going to have to get through life without my lovely Mum.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Lisa,

    Dont get down just yet.Its amazing what chemo can do. Your Mum has a lot to fight for as do you,

    She will need your support Caring and love. Which I know you will give her. You will need to let her know how much you and her granddaughter need her.

    All the best and look after eachother.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Lisa

    Your mum will need every bit of strength you can summon to help her get through. We are all individuals and how the hemo affects her is not necessariy what side effects others have. Be prearedfor the worst, hope for the best and I hope the latter is what happens.

    Keep her spirits up as much as posible as a positive attitude definitely helps to fight the effects.

    Good luck and hope it goes better than your perfectly natural fears.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Lisa, wishing you and your mum good luck, i just cant imagine what you are both going through. Take strength from your buddle of joy!!!

    Take care love Kaz x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you for your comments, it is very nice of you to reply.  I'm trying to be as positive as possible in front of my Mum it is just when I'm at home thinking things over that I'm a mess.

    She just seems to have given up and lost all her fight, me and Ava don't seem to be enough reason for her anymore.

    My buddle of joy (or trouble) keeps me going every day, I don't know what I'd have done without her.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Lisa, so sorry to hear your mum has had to go through all this. Perhaps when she has some definite news about her future treatment her state of mind will improve. My mum has breast cancer and was doing ok until her tests revealed more cells after mastectomy , since then she has been pretty depressed. The only advice I can give is keep doing what you are doing, being there for her and staying positive as I'm sure it must be helping her knowing you are there when she needs you.

    I was feeling quite isolated until I joined this site, it has helped me speaking to other people going through the same thing and being able to ask them questions about treatments etc, I hope it will help you not feel so scared. Take care and please let me/us know how things are going with your mum, Love Selena x