Lucy

Love you mum, will miss you everyday

2010-11-02T07:31:58Z

My mum sadly passed away this morning at 4.30 am with her 3 children around her. She was very brave towards the end I'm I'm so releived she is finally at peace. My mum was only 53 and was first told she has cancer only 11 months ago so this has been a devastating journey for us all.

I have used this site for the past 5 months and it has helped me no end and could never have got through this terrible time without this site and the people on it.

Will love you and miss you forever Mum, your amazing.

Rest in peace - Sally Howard 22/05/1957 - 2/11/2010.

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cervical/peritoneum terminal cancer

2010-08-07T19:01:30Z

Hiya guys,

I was wondering if any of you are able to give me some advice and help regarding my mums condition. My mum is 53 years old and was sadly told she had terminal cancer about 6 weeks ago and had months rather than years. It started off as cervical cancer which has spread to the peritoneum cavity. Around 4 weeks ago she started getting a pain in her lower back and she and the nurses just put it down to her syatica, anyway over the past few days the pain has become unbearable and she is now not able to walk without someone to hold on to and even then she struggles and falls. We thought it could also be to do with the cancerous fluid in her abdomen but a scan has shown that she doesnt have that much fluid at the moment so we are stumped!!! The main consultant has now brought her ct scan forward which was meant to take place in 6 weeks time after her 3rd round of chemo and I'm terrified the cancer has spread to her spine. I know I shouldnt but I checked the symtoms on the net and it doesnt look good at all and watching her in so much pain is heartbreaking :(

If anyone had any experience of this or any advice to offer it would be really good to hear from you.

Best wishes and Hugs

Lucy xxx

cervical cancer that has spread

2010-06-24T16:09:17Z

Hiya guys, I was wondering if you could give me some advice. Back in Dec 09 my mum was told she had cervical cancer stage 4 IVA, so at this point not terminal. She had radio therepy and was told a lot had gone and they felt confident she would be in remission within 6 months. The docs were happy to leave mum for a 8 weeks for the radio therepy to continue working and when she went back for a checkup they told her it was terminal. Its hard to explain exactly where the cancer now is but the doctor confirmed its not actually in any of her major organs and we should try to think of it as if all her organs in her abdoman is in an envelope and the lining of that envelpe is diseased, two nodules at the momement. Originally my mum thought she had stomach cancer but had understood the docs when she saw them at her first appointment. At the first appointment she was told she had months rather than years and chemo would only give her a few extra weeks and the doc hinted it would give her a very poor quality of life. She had a very bloated tum and they drained out over 4 litters of fluid from the abdoman and is now feeling a lot better other than a litte tiered now and then and a slight twidge in her back, which she isnt sure if its Siatica.

At the second appointment was saw another doc and macmillan nurse who confirmed its early but still terminal and explained how the chemo works and could stop it getting worst if she reacts well and mentioned they thought the chemo was the right option and should make her feel better other than loosing hair.

So I kind of feel like I have had a mixed opinon and I just wondered if anyone had experienced this or if anyone in the same boat as my mum could offer so advice.

I didnt want to ask the docs my mums life expectancy I didnt have the heart.

Would really like to speak to someone.

Many thanks

Lucyxxxx

Help and advice needed

2010-06-20T16:53:08Z

Hiya, In December 2009 my mum was told she had two tumours in her pelvis about 12 centimeters long and on New years eve was told she had 50% chance of survival. She started a 6 weeks course or radio therepy and at the end was told the cancer hadnt gone but had shrunk massively and much more than they expected and after having one more session of radio therepy and 3 lots of brachey was told they were very confident she would be in remission within 4 months. Two months later she had a scan and again was told she was cancer free apart from a couple of small spots which they felt would go over the next few weeks from the radio therepy. 8 weeks later she went for a check up and was having a really really bloated tum, I would say she looks 6 months pregnant. She had a scan and xray and was told her cancer had spread to her stomach and she had months to live, they mentioned chemo but it would only prolong her life for a few weeks. I had no idea cancer could spread this fast and I'm cluting at straws to keep her with us for a couple more years. Ive read that you can have a stomach removed, does anyone know if this is an option? also Ive contacted a top german doctor who treated Farrah Fawcette and gave her a couple more years. Any advice of similar experiences would be really welcome. Still cant beleive this is happening. My husband lost his mum 4 years ago to a similar cancer at the same age as my mum 54. So sad :(