lal's blog

Biting my nails

2010-03-29T11:37:39Z

Hello everyone

I am sitting here absolutely helpless while my Mum and my brother meet the oncologist for the results of Mum's last MRI and pet scan (they are with him right now). I am really really nervous for her. I have always been able to fly over to be with Mum for these visits, but things on my personal front are rock bottom right now, (my marriage), so I haven't been able to go this time. Let's just hope that the news is good. She so needs good news. Please please please may the news be good. She is so brave to face this. Like all of you out there who are facing the challenges of this disease every day. Love to you all and blessings to Mum.

Lal

MRI and PET scan, and I am not close enough to help

2010-03-20T11:21:45Z

Mum is having an MRI this evening and a PET scan on Monday. She is nervous as suffers terribly from claustrophobia. Sadly the PET scan clashes with my Dad's 16th anniversary which makes it all the more difficult for Mum. I reassured her that they are keeping close tabs on her so that they can catch anything early, but that really doesn't help much. Her fear is there anyway. I wish I was closer and could hug her and go there with her. My brother is taking her but he gets quite matter of fact as the whole emotional side is too much for him. It's at times like this that I wish I had never learned another language and had never left my home country. I wish I was there. I really do. But my kids need me here. Oh well, just have to keep my fingers crossed for Mum...

Living abroad and supporting my mother

2009-07-07T11:26:33Z

My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last October. Following a lumpectomy they discovered secondaries in her liver. I live abroad and have been visiting her as much as I can. She lives alone and has been managing things as best she can. She gets good support from the hospital, but it is hard knowing how much she has to deal with on her own. My children are small and it would be difficult to leave them for longer that a couple of days but I somehow cannot bear the thought that I cannot do more for her. She is having chemo right now, and the last PET scan showed that the tumors are shrinking. Nevertheless I fear for the future. She is 67. I could not bear to lose her now.