how can things change so quickly

2011-04-09T18:20:51Z

My dad was told on Monday that he has a cancerous polyp in his bowel (if I am honest i expected this from events that happended after various proceedures he had been through) but at the same time we were told he has secondary liver cancer. We were all stunned. In this meeting I didnt really take in anything other than the Dr said the liver cancer was terminal. Since Monday I feel like I am in a living nightmare. My dad is a very private man and doesnt want to talk about it. I cant get my head round it, could they have made a mistake. How can he die when he appears to be so well, not in pain, or he says he isnt. My dad was 84 on April 1st. I just dont understand or believe that in a space of a week things can change dramatically. What will happen next. Dad has appt with another Dr very soon who will apparantly talk through his options for the bowel cancer, ie an operation or chemotherapy, but if the liver cancer is terminal why we would put dad through this if at the end of it all it wont cure the liver cancer. Am so confused, keep going through it in my head and I still dont see how dad will get ill when he is well now, why will the cancer grow, surely if it has been there for a while (which I think was said) why would it grow now. Help

julie

how can things change so quickly