https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-blogs/b/beth_brighton/atomTelligent Community (Build: 12.1.2.21912)2011-03-30T18:31:33Zhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-blogs/b/beth_brighton/posts/mum-passing2011-04-04T19:33:30Z2011-04-04T19:33:30Z<p>My mum passed away this morning and it is the hardest thing&nbsp; I have ever had to deal with yet I couldn&#39;t cry and stil can&#39;t. &nbsp;I cried all the time when she was ill and the night before she died but when it happened i went numb. It was horrible seeing my mum unable to do anything by herself and not even communicating with anyone and as horrible as this situation is, i&#39;m glad she doesnt have to suffer anymore.</p> <p>I feel like I&#39;m floating and everything is in a bit of a daze. I don&#39;t know how I&#39;m going to cope without my mum.&nbsp; More of my concern is how my dads going to cope. I feel a bit sick. Does it get easier?</p><div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="https://community.macmillan.org.uk/aggbug?PostID=414968&AppID=31668&AppType=Weblog&ContentType=0" width="1" height="1">Former Memberhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/members/formermemberhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-blogs/b/beth_brighton/posts/how-do-you-cope-when-the-doctors-cannot-do-any-more-treatment2011-03-30T17:31:33Z2011-03-30T17:31:33Z<p>Hello,</p> <p><span>My mum has been fighting cancer for the last 3 years. It started at the bowel, going onto the lung and ending up with two tumours on the brain. My mum is unable to move, cannot go to the toilet by herself, barely eats and sleeps for 23 out of 24 hours a day. I have just been told that she has developed a lump on her neck but doctors will not even do a scan and say that there is notihng more than they can do for her. I live in Brighton and she is in Nottingham with my dad caring for her when hes not at work. I don&#39;t know what to do. I&#39;m an emotional wreck and i miss her so much.<br /></span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><span>I try to talk to friends about it but because none of them have ever had to deal with this kind of situation, they seem to back away from me and not even talk about the subject. If anyone who has been through/ is going through a similar situation and can give me any advice it would be much appreciated. I would be more than happy to share my experience with you too and hope to help you aswell.</span></p><div style="clear:both;"></div><img src="https://community.macmillan.org.uk/aggbug?PostID=413766&AppID=31668&AppType=Weblog&ContentType=0" width="1" height="1">Former Memberhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/members/formermember