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This blog will give you regular, high-quality information about cancer. You'll also get to meet the info team and get updates on our projects. We hope you find it useful. And if there are any topics you'd like us to blog about, just let us know.
This week is Anger Awareness Week, and our editorial assistant Amy-Louise has been speaking to some of our volunteer reviewers about the anger they have experienced as a result of being affected by cancer. In this blog, we also talk about coping with anger and how you could help a loved one with their anger.
Our reviewer Joyce spoke about how she felt angry after her treatment for mouth cancer, having been left unable to eat foods with a normal texture. For Liz, anger took her by surprise. She felt angry at the thought of having to wear a prosthesis after her diagnosis of breast cancer. Kemi found herself frustrated at not being able to do things she used to with ease.
Alexandra didn’t recognise herself when she noticed that she was losing her temper more frequently. After attending a psycho-educational workshop for women with gynaecological cancers, she felt comforted to know that she wasn’t the only person who felt this way.
Feeling angry is a normal reaction if you have been affected by cancer. You might feel angry because:
There are many other reasons that you might feel angry, and it is natural to feel this way. But it is important to be able to express anger rather than trying to ignore it.
How can I manage my anger?
How can I help someone who is angry?If you have a family member or friend with cancer, there may be times when their frustration or anger with the situation is directed at you. They might be angry about the cancer, but this can be hard to put into words. So they may take out their feelings on those closest to them. This can be difficult, especially when you are also trying to cope with your own feelings.
Try not to take anger personally. Your relative or friend may be upset because of the cancer, not at you. It is best not to respond angrily. Instead, try and find a time when you are both calm to talk about it. Our booklet Talking with someone who has cancer has tips for how to respond to anger.
Where can I find information and support?We have a range of booklets and audiobooks about the emotional effects of cancer, whether you have cancer or are a friend or relative of someone with cancer. We also have information to support people affected by bereavement. You can call our cancer support specialists on 0808 808 00 00, or you could visit our Online Community to share your experiences and talk to other people affected by cancer.
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I found this helpful as i feel angry .....then guilty ....at peoples responses. I understand that ppl dont always know what to say. But im fed up of "it will be fine" . "Youre very lucky, could have been much worse. " and when i cried at the thought of chemo and losing my hair, general response was dont worry it will grow back. I know im incredibly lucky, and worry about hairloss may seem shallow . But im finding it harder to be polite and mouth platitudes in return. I worry i will offend somebody because i can feel the anger like a bubble about to burst
Hi Chezeds, thank you so much for your comment. It can be really difficult to deal with strong feelings such as anger, and I'm glad this blog had helped a little. Do keep talking to everyone on the Community, and remember you can also call our support line on 0808 808 00 00 if you want to talk.
If you have any questions about Macmillan, or would like to talk to someone about cancer, we have a team of experts who can help.
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