time passes but it still hurts

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Well its been a few weeks now since Mum passed away. I miss her like crazy  . The evenings are the worst I miss the little chats and putting the world to rights . We would have a little giggle . Only a few weeks until I take her back to Australia and put her to rest with her mum and dad as promised . 

I keep being told it will get easier ,but I am not so sure .. maybe I will learn to live with it but right now it tough .. too tough . I would do anything to have her back .. nagging me 

All I can say is make the most of the ones you love cos boy its hard without them xxx 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Debs,

    believe me I know exactly how you feel. I lost my dear mum 12 days ago. We had been on holiday in portugal, the whole family, mum too. And the night we came home she passed away in her own bed, never got to say goodbye. Its my birthday tomorrow and I went round to her home today and there was a birthday card for me under her knitting bag [not written] but nevertheless it broke my heart.

    I lost my husband last june and was just about coming to terms with this terrible loss and then Mum has gone too.

    You are so right in saying its hard without them.

    Hope you feel a little tiny bit better soon.

    take care, love jmd xxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi there

    I lost my mum 9 years ago and a son 4 years ago - i have found that life becomes a new normal - it cant go back can it as there are holes where the people we love used to be BUT time does fill those holes with good stuff and the hurting numbs as good stuff floods in.

    when I think of my son I remember the hugs he gave, they were the best, and the grandaughter he left to remind us of him.  she was just one and the spitting image of him.

    there will always be tearful times but hopefully they will be overcome by secret smiles at the good memories filled with love,


    all the best Kaz x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    It's over 30 years since my Mum passed away, but I've had a busy life, which helped me learn to live with it.

    I'm undergoing Chemo, and learning to live with it, by keeping busy.

    Don't dwell on it, - - keep your mind and body occupied.  You can't change anything by dwelling on what has already happened.

    Cheers  Skepty