How long does it take for the body to return to the undertakers after post-mortem? I ask this because dad had his post-mortem friday and we thought he would be collected monday. The coroner has sent interim death certificates but it is going for an inquest so we can not offically register his death until after this so we can not get the green form for cremation. The coroner said we could go ahead with the funeral. Does the coroner send a form to the undertakers to say the cremation can go ahead and pick him up. The funeral directors have not heard from the coroner. When we got the interim death certificates the letter attached was addressed to a different person for another man!!! You can imagine what is going through are minds at the moment. Thanks Selina

Hi Selina,

We arwere in this position last week but we took the interim death certs to the undertaker and they arranged everything as they would have done if they had the full one and the funeral is this Thursday. Could the funeral parlour not phone the coroner - ours did once we took the certs in to double check they could go ahead.

I'm really sorry for your loss, please feel free to message me if you need to let off steam, seems we are in the same place right now.

Carina xx

Hi Carina

Thanks for replying. Have phoned the Coroner they say they sent the documents to the funeral directors but are going to contact them again. Just hope they haven't 'lost' dad. We know dad would see the funny side to this and is having a good belly laugh now. So sorry you are going through this also. Seems we have lost so many good people at the moment. Will be thinking of you Thursday. Such a horrible, horrible cancer. Please contact me also if you need to talk. Selina xx

hi selina you could do without all this. i lost my dad December 2011 me and my mum had to go through to see the coroner and she gave us the interim certificates while we were there. we didnt know we were going to officially identify dad it was a horrible shock when she started leading us to the mourtury. my poor mum had to go in by herself i feel i let her down! after this we dealt with the funeral director as regards to the funeral. its a horrible time we are still waiting 6 months later for inquest!! i think its was department of work and pensions that sent us details on someone elses death. you would think these people would be a tad more careful at times like this. hope your doing ok. i keep thinking i need to turn off the alerts on this forum but when i hear stories like yours it is nice to be able to give my story you kind of realise you not alone. lindsey x

H Selinai

Dave went to have his post mortom on the Friday they performed it on the Mon day morning the coroner called me to say it had been done and they contacted the undertaker to collect Dave they collected him later on the same day and called me to say he was back. The coroner should contact the funeral director and issue them with the green slip. If i were you i would phone the funeral directors yourself or if you can go and see them they will phone the coroners office on your behalf, I feel so much for you i know all you want to do now is put your dad to rest love to you all

Teresa x

Hi Lindsey

Like you said it's something we could do without. Mum 'tracked' dad down. He is at the main funeral directors. Not our local branch. No one bothered to tell us. It's not like it was a few days ago that he died its nearly a week and a half already. 6 months to wait for the inquest is unbelievable.  Its not just names on paper but people we love and care about. We thought the whole coroner experience pretty shoddy. The girl dealing on behalf of the coroner actually laughed when I was speaking to her because someone in the office had said something funny and mum heard someone in the background this afternoon talking about Paul McCartney!! Just an office job for them but really upsetting for all of us. Thanks for getting in touch. Its nice to get some answers. Does it get harder 6 months on. I still can't believe Dads gone. Take care Selina xx

Hi Teresa

Your experience is what I was expecting. It's was a bit of a worry.  We just wanted to know dad was near to us again. Anyway I hope now we can show our love by giving him a wonderful send off. Love to you and your family. Selina x

Hi Selina,I couldn't believe it when I read your messages, thats terrible and really not what is needed at times like this. I hope you have managed to get it all sorted out now, especially for your mums sake? Dad had his PM mon morning and confirmed meso, inquest we're told should be in about 3 weeks, but we have also been told it will prob be much longer than this. We are so lucky as our undertaker is a local and we have dealt with him before, he is a true gentleman and treats everyone with respect. Dad should be back at funeral home tomorrow, so hopefully we can seen him, managed to book the funeral too, which is such a relief when you're living in limbo waiting for phone calls. Hope the future runs more smoothly and you can give your dad the send off he deserves, thinking of you and your family, take care Gillx