Thanks Gill and Julie

Gill totally understand the bit about being in a dream. We just can't believe it. I have cried so much during dads illness but can't seem to cry as much now. I think I must be in shock still. The horrible nervousness I had in the pit of my stomach all the way through this journey has gone. I am left with just incredible sadness. Will be thinking of you. Selina xx

My heartfelt sympathy to you Gill and your family - I'm glad it was peaceful.  It is such a hideous thing to have to go through, my dad is still battling his mesothelioma but we don't know how long he has, it's heart breaking.

Thinking of you and everyone on this forum.

Sarah

Hi Selina - just wanted to say how very sorry I am for your loss.  My husband died from Meso on 7th Feb and it is a kind of relief when it finally happens. Like you say you cry so much when they are ill and when it happens you feel very strange and different.  I still have days when I cry but they are different tears than the ones I shed watching him suffer.  These tears are for me because I miss him so much.  I wouldn't want him to suffer again and so in a way I am glad he has gone to hopefully somewhere where he is out of pain and still looking out for me and our children.

I am thinking of everybody going through all the hard times now and send you a hug xx

Oh Gill I am so sorry for your loss and the emotional rollercoaster you must be running right now.

My Dad lost his battle in December last year, less than 6 months after diagnosis, and it still hurts every day.

I hope, like me, you can take some shred of comfort that he died peacefully - you're right, after everything our loved ones have gone through it is all you can ask for. 

If you want to talk - do get in touch.  Sending you massive virtual hugs.

Lu

x

Gill and Selina so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad December last year. I have a poem on my desk at work and in my purse i read it everytime im feeling down: x x x x

when god saw you getting tired

and a cure was not to be

he put his arms around you

and whispered come to me

he didnt like what you went through and he gave you rest

his garden must be beautiful

he only takes the best

and when we saw you sleeping

so peaceful and free from pain

we wouldnt wish you back to suffer that again

today we say goodbye

and as you take your final rest

that garden must be beautiful

because you are one of the best

Suzie thank you for your kind thoughts and LoobyLoo74 thank you for your poem such lovely words. I hope Gill doesn't mind me saying this but I hope my dad and Gills dad are up there having a good moan about meso and swapping stories. It sort of gives me some comfort. All my thoughts are with everyone on this difficult journey. Selina xxx

Gill

Jan xx

Thank you everyone so much for your kind words and reassurances, it helps so much. Selina, I love the idea of them doing that, my mum liked it too! We heard from the coroner today that a post mortem will be carried out on Monday. Hope this means we can soon start doing things and planning a fitting send off for a very special and much loved man, who I am honoured to be able to call dad.

Thinking of you all whatever stage you may be at, enjoy the time you have and cherish each memory made.

Gill

xxx