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I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer at the ripe old age of 32. Been told I will need 6 months of Chemo, surgery and then 4 months of radio therapy, hospital have not decided in what order as yet but are thinking surgery first as they want to try freeze some of my eggs as I have no children and chemo might mean I lose my fertility so by having surgery first hopefully this will allow the fertility experts to do there thing (fingers crossed). This is all so over whelming and then to make matters worse my employers who I have worked for, for 5 years, never off sick and work so so hard for them have turned round said I get 4 weeks at full pay then 4 weeks at half pay then I would go on to ssp....I am so disappointed in there lack of support and feel they must be emotionless, I have not even had a card or anything saying how sorry they are, So now I am going to give up my home and my car my independence and coming from someone who has worked and been independent all my lift always worked full time this is hard enough without all the treatment I am going to have to go through, and the biggest joke of all is the the company I work for, up until a few days ago was a corporate partner and supporter of mac millian and my store alone that I managed raised just under £3000 for them.....Heartless totally heartless and feel I proves they were only supporting mac Macmillian to raise the company profile and nothing else!!!
My heart goes out to you not just for being diagnosed but how your employer have behaved. Employers sadly do everything by the book when it suits them financially and sometimes that can come across as cold and cruel....but that's companies for you, think about themsleves first and staff second!!!!
Just a little note about SSP i didn't realise it kicks in from day one of sickness......not when you down to half pay as i originally thought. 28 weeks soon whizzes by so getting your finances in order is key now as when chemo starts your brain gets a little blurry. Speak to the Mac nurses about your finances and they will tell you everything you can claim for..........so hopefully you won't be put under pressure about your home and car.........the less stress you can give yourself the better.
4 months of rads is very high...maybe you miss heard 4 weeks as months but i've never heard of anyone having rads for that long. So let's hope this is what has happened and 4 weeks sounds much better :-) xx
Having your eggs frozen is tough on your emotions so i hope you have some great friends and family giving you support.....we will on here give you as much support as we can......that's because we are all lovely people and know exactly what you going to be going through.
Stay strong and we are here if you need us xxx
What an awful predicament you are in, and my heart goes out to you.
I don't blame you for feeling anger towards your employers, but presumably this is written into your contract of employment so pointless trying to fight it. Have you spoken to your employers to see about possibilities of reduced working hours, lighter duties, more flexi time that might fit in with some of your treatments? Some ladies manage to work part time through chemo, and many more through radiotherapy. (I agree this should be 4 weeks, not months) so all is not lost at the moment.
You sound so angry! A so you should. Let off steam!!! And if people around here have some advice, you are on a winner.
I was thinking of a little positive spin on what you have shared:
The doctors are keen to be freezing your eggs before they start with bootcamp. Now, that to me sounds so positive! (taking away the inevitable of infertility obviously).: your doctors are looking at a future for you! I think THAT'S something to focus on, when times are shit! They are not holding the eggs for random person down the road, but for yourself, once you have kicked ass!!! They are not saying, oh forget everything, from here on downhill. They are saying: yes this next bit is tough - bootcamp!!! But, there is life after! And it will be yours for the taking!
Hope you get your work stuff sorted in the meantime!
Dorothee you are an inspiration to us all. Your post are very uplifting, thank you. lol sue
Sounds like your company is being run by robots with a lump of metal where their heart should be!
They have specialist financial advisors here on the site so it would be very worthwhile for you to have a chat. They operate Monday to Friday 9am to 8pm on freephone 0808 808 0000. Just outline your problem to the operator and they will put you through to the right department.
Thanks guys for your lovely words of advise and support :)
I have just had my appointment through for me to attend a fertility specialist first thing in the morning to see if there is anything they can to to preserve my fertility.
So just keeping my fingers crossed there is some thing they can in the little time they have before I start my treatment.
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