Hi,

Back in October 2011 a close family member was diagnosed with Secondary Lung Carer. At the time the consultant was very positive it could be managable. It has spread shockingly fast to her bones, other organs and now her brain. We feel that it is a matter of a couple of months, instead of the ridiculous three years that was mentioned initially (which i already knew from experience was not realistic either way).

The consultant is shocked how resiliant the cancer is to any chemo or radiotherapy that has been tried, and how aggressive the cancer is. The is a tumor on the lung pressing against her vocal chords, and she is able to communicate but has now lost her voice completely.

We are a very close family and are still in shock that we will soon be losing such a cherished family member. My grandmother and mother are supporting her in every way possible, and whist it is terrible that we will be losing her, i fear for my family members at this fragile time.

Is that any advice to how I can offer further support my mother and my grandmother? I see how they try and be positive for her but I can see that they are crushed inside. I am worried for the upcoming months and what happens after she leaves us.

I have researched various support groups that I would like to take them too. I feel that maybe talking to someone outside of the family can help them to feel more positive and maybe put a different light about how they are feeling.

hi went through cancer with my husband who sadley lost his fight with bowel cancer in november, things he used say  was all he needed was love and support from us, talk when he was ready, dont push them in to talking, but be there when their ready, we were never told how long geoff had, but he wanted to know he was only 57 years old, not been to doctors in 4 years, very fit work hard as a builder so was very shock when told he had cancer, he still pushed his self to carry on working through treatment,he was so brave,

i have a very close family and friends you just got to be there for each other,

i can't tell you the road ahead is going to be easy because it not, take with macmillian nurses doctors ect,

everyone worries about upsetting each other, but most just need someone to be truthful to them, most of ur family will be feeling the same but want to protect each other.

take care. tracy.xxx

We've just been told she has days left. I am going to try and support my family members as much as possible.