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Sorry to hear about your mum. I had a similar situation with my mum she got cancer when I was 18 and died when I was 30 so incurable can be a long time! My dad had died when i was 17 too. I noticed how people would disappear inbetween times and not want to remember how things really are. I am glad you are getting help even if at the moment you don't feel like it is working, keep at it.It takes time and keep asking for help if it doesn't help.
I know that feeling so well of just wanting it all to stop for a while. There is an organisation called young carers that are great. You should join them. They are like a youth club kind of thing where others in your situation can meet and chat etc. They do fun things where there is a safe space as you don't have to explain what it feels like as everyone there knows and they give you that moment in the week for it all to stop. They also have people you can talk to etc.
If you have a school pastoral care type person ask them if they can find out where your nearest one is or you could google it for your area.
You don't have to do this on your own. You can get support from people like young carers and other organisations too. And of course, we are all here too.The carers are a great lot and really supportive.
Hang on in there and a big hug
Little My xxx
Firstly a big hug for doing a grand job. Caring for someone is a hard job and no one should face it alone. If you need help ask someone for it and if someone offers accept it!
If you have difficulty finding a young carers group in you area, you can ring the Macmillan free helpline on 0808 808 0000, open from Mon to Fri, from 9am to 8pm. You will find the nurses there very understanding and they may be able to help - worth a try?
Big hugs and good luck,
Hi Charley, so sorry that you have had to join this site but please stay here because it is a fabulous one.
I can't add any more than has already been said; my fellow carers have given some good advice.
You are doing a brilliant job and your Mum will be so proud of you.
Now make sure that you take care of yourself and try to get some 'me time'
Lots of love and hugs.
I think you're being really brave, and handling an incredibly difficult situation in a really mature way. It's very frustrating, when you feel like you can't spare anytime for yourself, and you just want things to stop for a while.
It's really important to have some "me-time", and I won't add to what the others have already said, but it's definitely something you should look into.
This forum is great for being able to share and "talk" at anytime of the day, because someone is ALWAYS listening.
All the best!
You are most definitely not stupid, so please don't ever think that. You are just feeling a bit lost and lonely right now and totally overwhelmed by this terrible situation that you find yourself in and have no control over, at such a young age too. Supporting a parent who is ill is very hard, whatever age you are.
You sound like an incredibly strong young person to me. You already have support for you, which is great and although it might not always feel like it is helping, please don't stop accessing that help.
The others have mentioned young carers groups, which sound like a great idea. An opportunity to be yourself and meet other people of your own age, who all totally get what you are going through, no explanations necessary and let some of that natural resentment and anger out in a totally safe environment.
Don't stop shouting up for help, that is the sign of a strong person, who knows they have limits and have reached the point where they know they need a bit of extra support.
Now you have found this site, keep posting. There will always be someone here for you.
Sending you a virtual hug love and hoping you can feel it xx
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