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My friend and I are in much the same place as you and your husband, she too has pain in her stomach/bladder area and high temp as well as vomiting but she is already in the hospice for much the same thing as now so they are treating her with antibiotics as they are not 100% sure where the infection is at the moment.
I hope you do manage to get some sleep and I must go to bed now too. Its awful to have one ear to the phone in case it rings isn't it. Try to get some sleep as you need to look after you too x x x x
Hope you get better news tomorrow x x x x (well later today now!)
Sending you a hig
Julie x x
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That dilemma of should you stay or should you go home is horrid but I am sure you did the right thing. You need sleep, or at least rest if sleep doesn't come, and it sounds like you could have an infection to fight off too. The nurse thought you should go, your husband wanted you to go so you did - don't feel bad about that.
I just wish I could give you a big hug and chase away some of that fear and I hope you found your husband more comfortable today and that the IV antibiotics are already having some effect.
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HI Anna, im so glad like me you found this place it truly is a help even to 'sound off'
im so sorry for your husband , this is something you must have heard so many times, doesnt always help you eh? when my mum in law came home from hospital having been diagnosed with cancer i used to go to bed dressed just in case i had to move quickly in the night, because i am not 'socialising' friends dropped by the way side.
however, i have discovered no matter how long you have been with this forum some tremendous and lovely people, if sounding off trhough the night, all day helps my freind then just do it, put your thoughts and fears down just typing them and sounding off helps. if its any help i went into the chat room the first day (yesterday) and found it of some comfort a 'live' person was on the other end of this faceless communication, it just helped so much for there to be someone at the other end.
god bless you anna and i hope you find the strength from your inner resources , from family, or from here, it doesnt matter where its from actually you just talk, there are many people here who will be listening and hopefully being of some comfort xxx
Hello everyone who wrote a message of encouragement to me. You really are lovely people. My husband looked a different man when I went to vist yesterday. He even looked fuller in his face, was quite chatty with everyone. He got a un. .it of blood and was getting another unit today, but tonight I was disappointed at the change, he was very sleepy again and I found out that his blood had really gone down that was why they were giving him more blood.....I just dont know what to think anymore feel so tired of all the ups and downs its like when you get a happy day the next thing you know its snatched away from you and a bad day follows.
Hi Anna, hope today is a better day. The ups and downs are indeed exhausting, so I hope that you got some rest, and that your husband is in good spirits today. Thinking of you xx
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