We are Macmillan. Cancer Support
I don't come on here very much any more, and just had a relatively minor brush with the old BC last year (DCIS with small op and rads, no chemo) but I still get all of the emails, although have to admit I don't read them all as avidly as I used to last year, but I did read yours and I promise you hon, you've come to the right place. Everyone on here is majorly supportive, and it sounds like you need it at the moment.
Sounds like you have got an arse of a husband - I know cancer affects everyone, not just the actual sufferer, but c'mon, really? The house was miserable.... GET A LIFE MATE!!!! What does he expect?
I'm sure there will be lots of ladies responding soon who will give you loads of advice - is really is a God-send of a place to come when you really need it.
I have just had second round of FEC and have to completely agree with the crying at adverts thing! The john lewis one made me bawl, steer clear at all costs. My hair did the same thing for about 5 days, slowly falling out but still enough to get by, then it got to the point where I was looking like a fire victim so i decided it was time for the big chop. My hair was immensely thick before and I now have a very sparse hedgehog look going on and expect to lose the rest on this cycle.
I can also sympathise with the insomnia, I appear to be awake at 4 am and passed out at 4pm. Not sure if you guys are on dexamethasone or similar steroid but if so that has a reasonable part to play in messing up sleep patterns.
I am a bit younger than you guys having just turned 31 (so fun trying not to vomit on your birthday no?) and have no children, yet – pre chemo egg retrieval for the win! So I can't imagine what it is like trying to cope with that part of family life also but can completely sympathise with other family members deciding they have had enough. One member of my family decided to pull a hissy fit due to not enough attention because apparently she had way less support when she was pregnant than I have with cancer...we all have our 'special' family members (I love her but want to kill her at the same time).
2013 has been similarly bleurgh for me (multiple complications with literally every stage of treatment) so here is hoping that 2014 brings an easier time for all of us.
By the way, I decided that if I was going to lose it I might as well have some fun and found this site where you can get wigs for about £25 http://www.wonderlandwigs.com/. They are fun ones and I have a couple of insanely coloured ones from them but have to say I wore a brown bob from there and people just said how shiny my hair looked, didn’t even notice that it was a synthetic wig :)
Similarly, feel free to message me x
If you have any questions about Macmillan we would love to hear from you
You can also follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Flickr or YouTube.
© Macmillan Cancer Support 2014
what are these?