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My husband passed away on Wednesday we were at the hospice and suddenly he went down hill
after a number of days he died.the way he died upset me and my family it not how I expected it to
Be.he has been fighting cancer for 3 years we have been so wrapped up in this that you almost forget
That what the end is
I don't know what I am going to do without him everyone says he still with me but how's does that help
He can't give me a cuddle.
I don't know what I am going to do
hello, I am so sorry for your loss. Like Clare I am struggling to sleep this week but at least it means we are here to offer you our support. In many ways your husband will always still be with you but never again in the way which we would all like and that is a very hsrd realisation.
You will be very traumatised at the moment so try to take great csre of yourself. Get as much help as you can from friends and family and I hope that by posting on here and readjng lthers posts you will be able to draw some comfort.
Try to sleep. What is your name? Most of us use our own name, a couple have pseudonyms but it is nice to be able to address you as someone.
Tske care and a MacHug, not as good as a real cuddle but it's the best we can do.
Hello my name is Elizabeth. I am so sorry you have lost your husband. You will be feeling a lost soul and very fragile. A very difficult time. By coming on here you will get all the support and kindness possible by others . I don't post on here very often but read the posts and find great comfort and know that people actually understand our loss. My husband died 13 weeks ago this Saturday morning. You take care hour by hour day by day. Sending you a huge hug. x x x
Hello. I'm Sue and I only joined this site a couple of days ago. I lost my wonderful husband two weeks ago. We'd been married for 41 years and like you, he was my best friend and soulmate.
These early days are so raw and painful, but the one thing I've discovered is that on this site everyone really does know what you are going through and how you are feeling and you can feel free to rant and rave, shout, or just cry your heart out, and no-one will judge you, no-one will say "Buck up, you need to get on with life" The support on here is truly amazing and its given me a lot of comfort even in these early days when I feel that I cant go on without him, that my life is over.
There are some on here that are further down the line than we are, and they help a great deal by telling us that there IS a future.....albeit a different one because we no longer have our loved one's in it, but a future nonetheless. And as our wise Alan would say..."you carry your loved one in your heart"
I really hope you will find some comfort on here, the people are wonderful and everyone will give you the support and courage to face the road ahead.
Take care of yourself.
Hi hacolston I am so sorry to hear your husband passed away my husband died 3 and half weeks ago he started feeling unwell in one way or another over the coming months was admitted to hospital with breathing difficulties ect on sunday 21 june a chest doctor came and seen my husband on the Wednesday and said you do realise you have cancer don't you which we said no because doctors were avoiding answering us and he died on the sunday 28th June so my husband deteriated so quickly and I never imagined he was going to die so soon I kept telling him we are going to fight this but his time ran out...... I still feel lost like im in a bubble everyone is getting on with their lives and im stuck I feel exactly like you I don't know how im going to go on without him, when you meet such an amazing man and have them in your life for so long you don't expect that one day they are not going to be there, You forget how your life was without them before you got together life will never be the same again but ive been told you find a new type of normal the emptiness will never go you just learn to carry it around with you but I believe that one day I will be reunited with my husband, I am sending you a big hug (('')) keep strong hun we all understand what you are going through and we are feeling the loneliness you feel take care xx
Thank you for your kind words I just visited my husband at the chapel the reason I did this was to make sure they carried out my wishes and that he was at peace .before the funeral.my sister and my brother in law have not stopped helping me I could not have sorted done this without them
Still got to wait another ,2 weeks for the funeral
Thank you for the support
Hello Helen. So glad that you visited your husband at the chapel of rest. I hope it brought you some sort of comfort to see him and to know he's finally at peace. I saw my Brian twice at the chapel of rest and I have to admit I felt grateful that he was no longer struggling with the awful bi-pap mask that he had, and he looked so peaceful.
You have got a while to wait for his funeral haven't you? We waited 10 days for Brians and that felt a long time, but I glad we did because it gave us enough time to make sure that everything was done correctly and that we could give him the send off he deserved. Because he was ex RAF we even managed to have a lone bugler playing the last post.
I hope your family and friends continue to be a great help and support to you, its times like this that we really need them. And of course, it goes without saying saying that you will get loads of support and wise words on this site....its a godsend.
Big hug for you.
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