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Hi Rosie, my heart goes out to you. I am no expert but I have found most children to be very resilient as long as we tell them the truth. Your best bet is to ring the helpline on this site and get their expert advice. If you haven't already done so make the school aware of your situation.
My husband has this evil monster in his gullet. It was heartbreaking to have to tell our grown up children let alone our grandchildren. Be thinking of you. Take care.x
Hi Rosie, I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your husbands prognosis. Such an awful time for you both and my heart goes out to you.
We are fortunate in that my daughter is an experienced mental health therapist nurse who works for CAMHS so deals with children of all ages plus we have a family member working in children's social services. It has been our policy from the start to keep our 4 grandchildren (15yrs, twins of 14yrs and a 7yr. old) informed of their granddads cancer and it's implications on a gentle but truthful 'need to know' basis. We are a close knit family and have jointly provided a united circle of support and love with open discussions as questions have popped up.
It has been so obvious that granddad has been extremely unwell so we thought it fair we kept them in the loop. Children cope very well as long as they are supported in all directions, particularly within the school environment. Most schools have some kind of support service these days where pupils can talk openly about their worries and concerns. Our grandchildren's schools have been excellent and we have found their input invaluable.
Children, like us, cope better with situations when they are prepared.
I hope this has been of some help to you at this difficult time. Thinking of you and sending you my love.
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