Been a while... lots happening...

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Well where do I start... just before Christmas my Dad starting hospital visits re 'breathlessness and a persistent cough' after many visits these last two months yesterday it was confirmed he has lung cancer. There is also a chance there is some other 'hot spots' from the PET scan to indicate other areas of concern in his chest.

Sunday he is being admitted to hospital for an operation to access these 'other areas' for biopsy - means he will be there overnight and home hopefully Monday or possibly Tuesday... the decision as to what treatment will depend on

Is the cancer localised or has it spread - test on Monday will confirm

If localised two options given - massive dose of radiotherapy or surgery to remove part of lung... both require Dad to be well and strong enough to manage the journey...

If it has spread we have been told surgery not an option anymore and dependant on how far it has spread the type of radiotherapy treatment may vary.

What should we be asking about / for?

We haven't had a 'grade' of cancer given - does this come after this operation and biopsy?

My Dad is and always will be the most amazing man ever... he is the strongest, biggest hearted man I know - he is a tough cookie too and my journey with him will be very different to the one I am having with Matt...

And for some news of Matt, beautiful boy is doing well at college despite time off for treatments... he is back for an appointment on Thursday next week and then another removal session on 21 Feb - this time they are scraping off the BCC's rahter than surgical removal - this is to protect the facial skin integrity and make sure he minimises scarring. He is planning a couple of weeks to recuperate and regain his good looks and has been lovely and offered to spend time with his grandad... the young and old men in my life and their journey I hope that Matt's youth and strength gives Dad the belief that it is worth the effort and he can be strong enough to make the journey...

As for me, I deal with this all as a challenge to me and my belief that there is always a positive in everything that happens it is hard to see how when the ones you love are in the middle of this, and yet there is something somewhere that is good coming from it... only time will lead us to the answer...

I wish you all a lovely weekend and that your fences are still upright and your shed rooves intact... the wind here is challenging both significantly...

Julia xx

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  • Hi Julia,

    I am sorry to read your latest blog, as if you have not been through enough already with young Matt, and now your father also has a journey to deal with.

    Pleaseing to hear that Matt is doing well and coping with college and life after his treatments and that the outlook looks good for him.

    I think you get graded after the biopsy usually about 2 weeks after from my experiance, as to what you should be asking, well i would say write some questions down as they come into your mind beforehand, and then after the consultation ask what hasnt been addressed by the consultant/registra, i found that htey were more than happy to answer all my initial questions and offer further advice.

    I wish you all well over the coming weeks and am sorry that you are plunged yet again into the abyss.

    Pauli........

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    Hi Julia, I'm so sorry to read the news about your dad. I hope the results are as good as they can be and he can get started on treatment as soon as possible.

    Matt really sounds like a well balanced young man and I'm sure his support of his grandad will be very much appreciated. So glad that he is making the most of his life, too many people use life's struggles as an excuse to go off the rails. You must be so proud of him.

    I wish you and your family all the very best for your latest journey. You sound like a very strong lady who has had more than her fair share of trials and tribulations.

    Please let us know how your dad fares will you.

    Best wishes, Christine xx

  • FormerMember
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    Hi Julia,

             I am so sorry to hear about your dad and I hope  that the tests show that the cancer hasn't spread. It is lovely to hear that Matt is doing well and I am sure he wili inspire his grandad and they will both get something positive from spending time together. You now have twice the worry, however,so it is good that you are a strong, positive person. I am sure the rest of the family will support you and I send you all my very best wishes.

         Take care,

            Love lizzie xx