please help!!!

Hello missiamaffraid.  How lucky your friend has such a caring friend in you.  Its a terrible shock for all the family when a loved one is diagnosed with cancer, especially our sons/daughters.  Right now the best thing you could do is let her/him know you are there for them, that you are sorry this has happened and, basically just be there.  Let your friend do the talking if they want to.  Most of all, as much as you will want to be a shoulder to cry on for your friend, try to live as normal as possible and carry on doing what you both always do - as long as he/she wants to.  You will be a true friend for life.  Also, cancer doesn't mean a death sentence, there are so many people on here at Macland who have gone through treatment and carried on living, laughing, getting on with their lives, like me.   Easier said than done but try not to be afraid for  your friend, be her/his shoulder to lean on.  Ann x

hi hun well isnt your friend lucky to have you to careits such a difficult time in anyones life but if she goes to the macmillan centre you will find one close to you if you look on this site we went in to the one at our hospital its wonderful and they give you lots of books to read about the things and questions you want to ask and the ladies are so nice you can talk about anything how to help your friends mum what to expect from treatment during and after all sorts of things so try finding the nearest one to you and go with your friend the people on here are wonderful too so many nice friends i have made here love and hugs jen xxxx

Thank you so much for you help, i really needed somone to turn to myself to be honest. I will put all the things you have suggested to the test and i'll try and get her to go to one of the centres even if i have to go for her, or say that its my mum with the cancer. i just want to help her all that i can. thx a lot xxxx