It's been over 18 months since Markus went. 18 long, confusing, atrocious months. And yet they haven't been so bad all the time, they went in phases. What surprised me was my dependence on other people - and I didn't need the one-time 'let's do something together' kind of contact, but a kind of reliability, someone who was there more often. That wasn't easy. People do think you are coping,…