..hospital admission for husband

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Thurs 25th

Unfortunately Alan did have a bad night last night, he could not keep water down and was vomiting every hour. At 6.45am my son went off to his football tournament and at 8am we rang the line straight to the oncology ward. They said they were full and could we ring the GP. My daughter went to a friend's at 10am. Our GP did a home visit at 11am, by now Alan was very dehydrated and the Dr was concerned that his swollen right leg could be a DVT also because he could not keep any pills down, including the anti-sickness ones, he was in a lot of pain in his chest and tummy. So he was admitted and i took him to PCH. We went into A and E and of course although he got a bed in the admissions quite quickly things went very slowly. Eight hours later i left the hospital with Alan at last on saline with the anti sickness drugs and morphine. They managed to find him a bed on the Oncology ward so that was good. They also gave him an enema because the pills and the chemo had made him really constipated, and we all know how painful that can be.

The worst thing really was the fact that he did not get any sleep last night due to being sick every hour and has today been plagued by hiccups, each one being very uncomfortable and hurting which meant that he could not sleep. As i left they were going to give him some drug to try to curb the hiccups. I shall ring the ward in a moment to find out if he is managing to sleep now, he is not in a room of his own so i hope he can sleep. The scan for his leg will be tomorrow morning apparently.

The worst thing in the hospital was that somehow we always hit the nurse shift changeover at the wrong time, i found i was having to chase up drugs and drips and whatnot, so im glad i was there to do that. Alan would not let me touch or stroke him though because his skin was too sensitive, at one point towards the end i held his hand and he dropped it quickly..'You're skin is too hot' which i found a bit hard because i wanted to comfort him. I wished i could stay much longer but it had been a long day and children and puppies needed collecting and caring for so as soon as he had all he needed i came away. Now i'm home i worry if this is it now and we will be just in and out of there all the time. I want to be a bit more organised at home so that i can be more prepared to rush in to hospital like that. 

Right i am going to ring the ward and then have a very long bath.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hiya, Robert is having his 3rd chemo tomoro but just wanted to stay after the 1st one he was sick every hr also for nearly nine hrs. He also got the hiccups. Our girls are 3 and 10yrs old and school hols just make it all harder to cope with. Dont worry about the cleaning and accept any help where/when its offered. Crying is good, let it out. My heart is with you. Lumps have gone down so hoping more will go after tomoro but feeling anxious as is Robert. Hope pup ok and your children are alright? Di

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Emily,Please dont be disheartened its early days they can reduce his chemo a little untill he gets used to it,his poor body will wonder whats hit it,Pete suffers terribly with the hiccups it can keep him awake most of the night,hope its not dvt,keep updating and let us know if hes ok.Hugs Chris.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you for both your positive comments. I have rung the ward and he has had trouble sleeping but they did manage to control the hiccups for a while.

    Di- Bless you, a toddler and a 10year old. It is harder in the hols isn't it , they see so much then :( As for cleaning etc., my friend is coming to collect my ironing in the am, something i would never normally let others do! I feel for you and your family, i really hope his 3rd chemo goes ok tomorrow and thank you for all the comments about the sickness and the hiccups :) x x

    Chris- I will keep updating, thanks for commenting, hugs to you too x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Emily,

    My dad had all sorts of issues and things that needed sorting when he had treatment, from oedema to a lack of phosphates, whatever they are. Sometimes it can take a while to get the drug regime right because it varies a lot from person to person. My dad was given an anti-emetic infusion before the chemo each time because the drugs were known to be bad ones for causing vomiting and now that they know Alan reacts this way, there's a good chance that he'll get this as well with his next cycle. Unfortunately it always seems to be a bit trial and error, because everyone reacts differently. They'll get it under control and he'll be home soon I'm sure. Don't be afraid to ask you friends and family for a bit of practical help while he's in hospital. Look at it this way, would you be put out if they were in your situation and they asked you to run a duster round or walk the puppies or feed the kids? Course you wouldn't! So they'll be feeling the same. For the last 2 weeks of my dad's life we asked if friends would possibly drop us in a meal each day because we didn't get in till 9 and since this had gone on for a while we were all starting to get a bit thin! Ellen organised a rota and every night when we got home there was a dinner in the porch waiting, bless them. They were brilliant. I'm sure your friends would be too. Stay strong and I hope Alan is home very soon, love Vikki x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Emily, just wanted to say my thoughts are with you, Alan and the family.

    Hopefully they can get Alan settled down and get his symptoms under control.

    Will keep an eye open to see how things are going.

    Best wishes, Christine xx