Debs Daily Deliberations - 21

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Day 32 of 33 DONE Well today has been a pants day! Had my radiotherapy, Vicky told me they would all go into a deep depression after I finished tomorrow - hmmmmm she is fibbing me thinks LOL Walk back to the main waiting room to collect Tony and he's not there! I look around and a couple in there ask if I am lost "no, just looking for the hubby" - "nobody been in here since we got here" they said, "long walk home for me then" I replied just as Tony surfaced. We walk out to the car and he tells me the school have been on the phone about our eldest. His form tutor informs us that Jack has been consistantly late for registration lately and today when he challenged him about it Jack gave him "a look"(Jack is 15, so all the parents of teenagers out there will know exactly what that look was I think LOL). He went onto moan that he had been ringing our home number and no answer.........Tony explained we were at the hospital and gave him a short version of whats going on..........very apologetic teacher now. Anyway, its no excuse for him being late every day (we all agree on) and apparently he's earned himself a 45min detention. Now on the way home we start to discuss what we will do and I make the mistake of saying "I don't think its that bad, in the grand scheme of things"...........ackkkkkkkkkkkkk hubby doesn't agree. I didn't say I thought it was OK......but its not like he's doing drugs or beating other kids up or swearing at the teachers and his grades are pretty good. As you can imagine the debate kinda got personal, hubby always accuses me of having Jack as my favourite child - like there is such a thing. I love them all, equally but differently, Jack was our first born and there is something special in that, Sean is sensitive and loves to curl up on the sofa for a cuddle (Jack would explode before doing that LOL) and I love that in him, even at 13. Lara, hmmmm she is just Lara and no one is going to take her for granted and she is very much a daddy's girl anyway but I love her spirit and the fact she speaks her mind - although I seem to remember Lara having something about flippant facial expressions in her school report when she was 9!!!!!!!! So I was in tears by the time we got home and got out of the car refusing to kiss him goodbye. Yeah I know cutting my nose off to spite my face. Well a little while ago I get a text - "have you forgiven me yet?".....silly bugger, nothing to forgive, he just upset me thats all and I am best left to my own devices for a while. So the excitement of treatment finishing tomorrow has been tarnished by the tardiness of my son (I hate lateness.......for any reason and so does hubby). I have been to Tesco's, walking briskly to wear out the frustration and decided we are having a curry tonight. Easy to prepare, cook and clean up. Sorry bit of a whingy moany blog today - lets hope the afternoon improves LOL Thought for today: You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance. Franklin P Jones
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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I love your blogs, and yes despite the fact Ihave not kids - I do recognise the "look" different in each child but the same meaning.  My sisters kids have some classics.  One more to go and your done... yippeee.  Well done you and your bonce girl.

    Love

    Carol xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hiya debs

    just read about your son being late ....

    our granddaughter is 10 ..... shes had loadsa bouts of tummy ache - felt sick -been sick

    had to come home regularly from school

    always on a monday during lunchtime

    shes seen gp twice and last week my son made my hubby and her mum take her to a&e

    she had xray and sically shes constipated

    trying to make her eat loadsa fruit n veg cereal etc etc

    but she was still ill this monday

    i think its a related to whats happening here

    dads ill

    grandma n grandad moved in

    shes sharing room with baby brother

    dads still not better -why is it takin so long

    homework

    fallout with friends

    shes growing up

    its all too much for the young ones

    hey at times i think its all too much for me and im a propper grown -up im a grandma!

    hope your son will tell you why hes late - hey maybe something simple -like they changed the time of the bus!

    take care

    xNx

    ps give ur hubby an extra cuddle 2nite xx

  • Couldn't get into blogs yesterday so just read this one (10.39).   I understand your husband asking for forgiveness.   He will not want you to be upset for too long (I was like that with Ray).  That is true and unconditional love for you (omg here come the tears).   As for your son,  well he is a teenager for goodness sake. He is possibly just testing his boundaries and seeing if it is noticed.  Hope you enjoyed your curry.  Catch you later x x x  Big hugs to you all  x x x x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Debs yes its hard when kids are at that age yes i know i had four. All very different too. We all dread those calls from the school.

    Testing boundries plus you are ill some find it far harder to deal with.And boys are alway's closer to mum i think.

    Hope you and hubby made it up and the curry was good.

    take care

    nanaboo