The idea of a new relationship can be both an exciting and terrifying prospect, but entering the world of dating after having cancer can be a scary prospect.

If there have been changes to your body or physical appearance, you could be worried about how a potential new partner could react to this.  Sexual concerns, the fact that you can’t have children or worries over whether a new partner could give you the support you need might make it difficult for you to open up, and could even put you off the idea of a new relationship.

Talking about your experience with cancer is the best way for your new partner to understand more about you and what you’ve been through.  It will also give them the chance to find out what you’d need from them and how they can support you through difficult times.

However, some might find that their cancer experience has made them a stronger person, and may feel they can offer a lot to a relationship.  If you’re feeling brave enough to dip your toe into the dating pool, good for you! However, no matter how confident you’re feeling, it’s understandable to feel anxious about a new relationship.  So why not try out the following tips: 

  • Get involved with activities that you enjoy and where you can meet other people - this will help boost your confidence.
  • Get some advice from other people who’ve been through a similar experience.
  • Think about when you might want to tell someone about your cancer experience. There’s no right time - you may want to wait until you feel comfortable and safe with them. But it’s best to tell them sooner rather than later, before the relationship gets serious.

If you need to speak to someone about your anxieties about starting a new relationship after cancer, give our support team a call for free on 0808 808 00 00 (Monday to Friday 9am – 8pm).

Cancer Talk Week is running all this week to Sunday 29th January.