A Sisters View - The start of our journey 04/04/11

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The basics,

Me - 35yr old mum of 2 and manager of a pre school playgroup, son 15yrs and daughter 4yrs who has high functioning autism, Husband who i've been with 8 yrs who has genitifemeral neuralgia ( Chronic Pain in pelvic area and finds walking hard - works from home.  My Parents - love us to piesces but dysfunctional to say the least... Brother - hmm life owes him everything or so he thinks, 33 acts about 12.. Then there's My Sister/best friend - "loulie" ( 38 ) - she is Cheomotherapy Specialist Sister at an oncology unit ( Oh the irony ). She has been having tests after recurrant UTI's.. Had an ultrasound that showed a growth on her bladder and has spent 2 days in hospital having tests

What a few days, my sisters had her CT and Cystoscopy.. It is bladder cancer, thankfully it looks as if it hasn't spead. It is quite aggressive and we are awaiting her biopsy results to get a treatment plan and full prognosis they've already said she will need full bladder removal, chemo and radiotherapy.. I feel so numb, have always been the strong organised one of our family and that's a part i'm playing well at the moment but inside I feel like screaming at everyone... She's my sister and my best friend, this isn't fair..... I see her crying, I talk to her friends for her, I want to be able to make this better... I guess when we get more info things may fall into place a bit, she is convinced they are going to give her a short life expectancy but I focus on the words they used which was " We are going to treat you agressivley in order to cure you " I know she has a long battle but I'll be there for her every step of the way, we will get through this..... We have too !!!

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Bindy, what a lovely sister you are.  Its great you want to take away your sister's pain/worry and  you know you can't but eith you by her side that is all she will want.  It was be harder for medical staff to get cancer as they know so much about it and probably sign their death warrant straightaway - cancer treatment, although not nice, has moved on and more of us are surviving.  I am sure your sister will be that survivor and I wish her and you all the very best for the future which will, before you know it, be behind you both so don't forget to live, laugh, spend (retail therapy is always good) and enjoy the good times.  Of course, treatment may be shi--y but there will be times when things are going smoothly - make the most of them.  Good luck to you both and if we can lend an ear on here for support, we look forward to learning of your journey.  Ann x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi bindy

    as ann says we are always here just to listen and lend support when needed you are a wonderful sister wish upon wish i had one as good as you mine has never even phoned me to ask how i am buit thats family for you i guess you ahve to stay positive and strong its a hard old journey and friends are lost along the way but you have each other and your family which is worth their weight in gold

    love and hugs jen xxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Bindy,

    Stay strong for your sister you sound the kind of sister I would want in a situation like this. As long as you are by her side. She has a good chance of

    winning the battle you will help her to win the war,

    Look after eachother.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thank you all for your kind words and support, am going to keep my blog updated as and when this roller coaster moves us forward, Bindy xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi

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